Why I don't follow the rule, "Never go to bed angry"
This Saturday I was having a bad day and asked Ryan to fix me chicken wings or to take me out to Lupe Tortilla. He said fine, but 30 minutes later I was still in a bad mood with no food. Small side note is that he wasn’t feeling well either, but how hard is it to turn the oven on and cook Shwan’s chicken wings?
After I cooked my own chicken wings, I was feeling slightly better and asked him to watch tv with me and rub my feet. 30 minutes later, I was still in a bad mood with achy feet. I finally gave up and went to bed without him. He came to bed after our favorite tv show was over; he watched it all without me.
I’m ok with going to bed angry because I’m mad and I want to take a moment to be mad. I know I will wake up in the morning, take myself to Lupe Tortilla and eat the entire Big Sucker burrito and feel much better. I’m ok with going to bed early because I’m tired and just need some sleep. Sometimes the sun needs to set on a bad day. I’m ok with going to bed angry because I don’t want to be awake at 2:30 a.m. still angry. The sun has already gone down, go to sleep, the problem will be smaller int he morning.
Here are the rules I follow when I am mad and go to bed angry:
Always sleep in the same bed. I’ll sleep far away from you and show that I am sorry by reaching my toe to touch you. That’s it. That is all you get. But it does show that I am sorry.
You don’t have to go to bed at the same time. I’m angry and need to just deal with it. I deal with it by taking NyQuil, but I get to sleep without getting even more angry that Ryan is snoring.
Find a way to become happy, fast. Take some type of action to move on. You got to have your pity party, now move on. My tricks, Mexican food and walking outside.
You know your marriage and how to respond to issues. What works best for you? I wanna know. I am lucky that I can take myself to Mexican food and feel better. What are your tricks for when your spouse annoys you?
